It seems like my life is out of control
November 15, 08
I am 55 years old. Can you help me? It seems like my life is out of control, in the way of relationships, finances and health. I’m not totally at loose ends. But I can’t seem to concentrate, or want to concentrate when I’m not working. I haven’t wanted to take care of myself. I’ve allowed myself to depend on others. Both my children are 25 & 19 years respectfully. I am a grandmother of 3 beautiful children. I love my family. I’ve carried on a relationship with a married man for 10 years. I want out. Can you help me, help myself?
You need to start with calling your primary care doctor and making an appointment asap. And be completely honest with him/her–people tend to lie to their doctors about how much they drink, what they eat, how much they exercise, sexual practices, etc, and then the underlying reasons for medical problems can be missed. It sounds like you may be depressed, and this can be assessed and addressed by your doctor. He/she can also give you referrals for a counselor and other mental health professionals. If you don’t have insurance, there are sliding scale clinics and county mental health agencies which you can access. And by all means, do yourself a favor and dump the married guy. There are plenty of single men out there to play with.
Best wishes,
Gwen